What does love and romance mean to you?

This is a vent because now I know why so many are lonely. I think the idea of love has gotten so distorted that people have lost focus on what it really it is.

Romance isn't flowers and candy, it's a thought process that drives you to buy the flowers or candy. It's The caring that makes a woman cook for her man knowing he's hungry. Not because she's his servant but because she's his and he's hers. True romance doesn't change when you have kids because even tho you're tired you can hold each other as you sleep. See people confuse the action with the state of being.

Too many see catering to each other as being weak, whupped, and all things negative. I feel sorry for those people. They are the ones that will never know what real love feels like because they aren't open to it. Love isn't just about what I can get from you, it's also about how I can care for you. How we care for each other. There's no shame in being a kind, loving and considerate partner. People just need to understand that you have to look outside yourself in order to see what's right for the both of you.

When you bathe you don't wash just one hand. Both spend equal time under water. The same thing applies in relationships. If you are going into it thinking about all the things you won't do for love, how can you ever show someone all that they mean to you? If they mean anything at all?

I was blessed enough to witness the last 25 years of a love like that. They had nearly 40 and death is what parted them. They had the bomb love. One that didn't mind when they both gained weight. One that cared for each other when it was needed. One in which my father cried at the thought of losing the one woman that meant everything to him. I want a love filled with joys and pain. Ups and downs. The trials of life. TI was blessed to be nurtured in that environment and that, more than anything else, is why I'm single. I have a certain understanding about life and love because of how I've viewed it. Until I find a man that understands all the things that I do, I'll stay as I am